It hit me on the first day of a recent vacation in Riviera Maya, Mexico with my husband (Steve). We found ourselves signing up for an expensive snorkeling excursion as well as a horseback riding trip before we had even hit the beach. Why? We were planning to relax and consider discussing some activity possibilities later on in the trip. What was it that won us over so quickly and definitely? Simple, it was the Tour Representative’s skilled vibe – he had mastered that fine line between “interested and desperate.” Therein lies the dating lesson for all to experience.
As Steve and I rushed through the airport upon arrival, we were approached by several vulture – like tour company representatives who stopped us in our tracks with desperation in their eyes and brightly colored brochures. They were already enthusiastically pitching their raps before they even stood before us. They offered amazing deals and the adventures of a lifetime. What did we want to do? You guessed it, get as far away as possible. With polite no thank yous that deteriorated into emphatic no responses, we hurried past them as quickly as we possibly could.
Flash. Arrival at our hotel. We connect with Gregorio to confirm our reservation for our end of trip transfer to the airport. We are greeted with a warm smile, a confident but casual affirmative response, and the following line, “I’m sure you two want to hit the beach and relax. Whenever you feel like it, I’ll be here in the lobby with lots of fun tours that you may want to hear about later on in your vacation. Have a great time!” Somehow, he had left us interested and wanting more.
Here’s what Gregorio has mastered along with its implication for successfully attracting potential dates:
1. Openly communicate availability, warmth, and interest
2. Know your worth and convey confidence
3. Do not rush others into interaction, encourage it – but don’t push it
4. Exhibit no trace of desperation in your expression or voice
5. Expect positive results from your attempts at interaction
The happy ending? Two amazing and adventurous excursions and a glowing trip advisor review. We can’t wait to return and book more trips with Gregorio, and we’re talking it up to all our friends!
Now get out there, master the vibe, and exponentially improve your dating success! If not, there’s always that amazing snorkeling…
Heidi Krantz is a Professional Life Coach with specialties in Dating, Moving-On, and Communication. She is the founder of Reinvention Life Coaching, a motivational speaker, and a published author. Heidi practices in Long Island and Manhattan as well as via telephone, skype, or facetime anywhere on earth. She offers workshops and seminars throughout the New York area and via teleconference. www.reinventionlifecoaching.com