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Dear Dr. Hedda: I recently had a social interaction with some people I don’t (obviously) know very well. I live in a small town so people tend to run into each other a lot and after awhile you start being friendly with them. Well, I eat at a local small restaurant every Thursday. Love their Thursday special. Another man eats there regularly so since we were both alone we started talking. Just chit chat about town or the movies or some other petty subject. Small town talk, nothing special.. About a year ago he introduced to his...

Posted on Feb 26 2014 - 5:07pm by Heidi Krantz
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I’ve been noticing a fascinating phenomenon with my individual clients as well as with my groups who are going through various phases of divorce. When I encourage each person to identify positive traits about themselves, and they actually name the traits out loud, it’s almost as if they are beginning to fall in love. The energy shift within them is consistently...

Dear Dr Hedda: We’ve all heard stories about people going to High School Reunions ten or twenty five years after graduation and running into old boyfriends and restarting the romance. Well I got one better than that. I went to my 50th High School reunion and ran into my old boyfriend from the 5th grade. That’s right the 5th grade. We were about ten then. All we did was hold hands and...

Posted on Jan 24 2014 - 10:15am by Heidi Krantz
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When we want to let someone know about an issue that is really important to us, or about a strong preference that we have, how do we bring it across? Our manner can make the crucial difference in the way that we are heard, and it can determine if that someone will get on board with our concern, or not. Hence, the “Love Sandwich” recipe: 1. Begin with a positive statement which recognizes at least...

Dear Reader: I love that romance is the motivation behind the RomanceBeat website but along with this emotion other things happen. When most of us find that special person we began with a romance and often hope that it leads to marriage. Marriage brings other feelings and emotions including problems. If you look at present day statistics you’ll find 50% off first-time marriages end in divorce...

Dear Dr Hedda: What is it with New Year’s Resolutions ? It’s only been a few days and most of my friends don’t even remember what it was they were going to change in 2014. My family puts a lot of pressure on me to make at least 3 special resolutions each New Year’s Eve. It’s like a game we all agree to play. A make believe game. We all air our worst faults and promise ourselves and each other than this year we really are going to work on: a new job, losing those extra pounds, exercising more, etc… Then...

Posted on Jan 6 2014 - 4:45pm by Heidi Krantz
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It hit me as I watched the freshly hatched Black Turtles find their way down the beach to the ocean. These creatures are unambivalent about following their instincts. When the naturalist set them free, just hours old, they did exactly what they needed to do to continue their lives the way they were meant to. As I stood there in awe, I asked the expert, “How do they know where the ocean is?” He...

Dear Dr Hedda: I got the holiday blues. Same as last year and the year before. Everyone one of my friends get invited to the best parties with the great live bands and they drink and giggle into the new year. They get terrific, expensive, just-right, gifts and they meet interesting, available men. Not me. I always get invited to the “B” parties and see some people I work with or the neighbors...

During my workshops and seminars, as well as with my individual clients, we talk a lot about projecting confidence and positivity in order to enhance dating success. These qualities are enormously important in drawing potential partners to us. But there’s another crucial ingredient in attracting dates and holding their interest through that first awkward phone call in order to move forward to the...

Dear Dr Hedda, I have a problem. Actually I’ve had this problem for 32 years. It’s my son. He s breaking my heart. It started at birth. He was a difficult child,he never napped. I took him to every doctor I could find. They all said either he would out grow this or not. They told me not to worry. By the time he was three he was yelling and screaming almost all the time. Back to the doctors. They,all four of them, that he may have an impulse disorder or maybe A DVD. They offered little help. One doctor wanted him on medications....