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Dear Reader: I love that romance is the motivation behind the RomanceBeat website but along with this emotion other things happen. When most of us find that special person we began with a romance and often hope that it leads to marriage. Marriage brings other feelings and emotions including problems. If you look at present day statistics you’ll find 50% off first-time marriages end in divorce...

Dear Dr Hedda: What is it with New Year’s Resolutions ? It’s only been a few days and most of my friends don’t even remember what it was they were going to change in 2014. My family puts a lot of pressure on me to make at least 3 special resolutions each New Year’s Eve. It’s like a game we all agree to play. A make believe game. We all air our worst faults and promise ourselves and each other than this year we really are going to work on: a new job, losing those extra pounds, exercising more, etc… Then...

Posted on Jan 6 2014 - 4:45pm by Heidi Krantz
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It hit me as I watched the freshly hatched Black Turtles find their way down the beach to the ocean. These creatures are unambivalent about following their instincts. When the naturalist set them free, just hours old, they did exactly what they needed to do to continue their lives the way they were meant to. As I stood there in awe, I asked the expert, “How do they know where the ocean is?” He...

Dear Dr Hedda: I got the holiday blues. Same as last year and the year before. Everyone one of my friends get invited to the best parties with the great live bands and they drink and giggle into the new year. They get terrific, expensive, just-right, gifts and they meet interesting, available men. Not me. I always get invited to the “B” parties and see some people I work with or the neighbors...

During my workshops and seminars, as well as with my individual clients, we talk a lot about projecting confidence and positivity in order to enhance dating success. These qualities are enormously important in drawing potential partners to us. But there’s another crucial ingredient in attracting dates and holding their interest through that first awkward phone call in order to move forward to the...

Dear Dr Hedda, I have a problem. Actually I’ve had this problem for 32 years. It’s my son. He s breaking my heart. It started at birth. He was a difficult child,he never napped. I took him to every doctor I could find. They all said either he would out grow this or not. They told me not to worry. By the time he was three he was yelling and screaming almost all the time. Back to the doctors. They,all four of them, that he may have an impulse disorder or maybe A DVD. They offered little help. One doctor wanted him on medications....

Now that the two of you have split, parts of you are probably feeling frightened and therefore clinging to familiarity. Although you may not be inclined to do so, consider loosening your grip on the past and beginning to experience the profound benefits of broadening out of your comfort zone. You can initiate achievable steps in that direction right now. Extricate yourself from “your side of the...

Dear Dr. Hedda:   I’ve got a problem.  A family problem, all my life.  I have an older sister.  Just a few years and a millions miles of difference.  She is smart, pretty, popular and quite the “Tea Party” politico.  I am not.  I am very liberal.  I’m the peace marcher, flag burner, protest writer of the family.  So therefore, according to my sister, I am always wrong.   I...

Dear Dr. Hedda:   Several of my single friends have met interesting and available men through different on-line dating services. So I thought I would give it a try.   I’ve had several “viewed your profile” hits but no one has responded and asked to meet me. I posted a very nice picture and tried to sound upbeat and interesting in my profile but nothing has happened. What am I doing...

Dear Dr. Hedda: I got a problem. It may not be a problem for some women but it is a problem for me. I’ve been dating two men, one for about a year and the other for about 19 months. I like them both alot. Actually I think I love them both. They both know that there is someone else. They have never met and don’t know each others names. I think that this arrangement works for me. I have two men that love me and have fun with. I see then each once or twice a week. I don’t know what they do with the rest of their...