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Now that the two of you have split, parts of you are probably feeling frightened and therefore clinging to familiarity. Although you may not be inclined to do so, consider loosening your grip on the past and beginning to experience the profound benefits of broadening out of your comfort zone. You can initiate achievable steps in that direction right now. Extricate yourself from “your side of the...

Dear Dr. Hedda:   I’ve got a problem.  A family problem, all my life.  I have an older sister.  Just a few years and a millions miles of difference.  She is smart, pretty, popular and quite the “Tea Party” politico.  I am not.  I am very liberal.  I’m the peace marcher, flag burner, protest writer of the family.  So therefore, according to my sister, I am always wrong.   I...

Dear Dr. Hedda:   Several of my single friends have met interesting and available men through different on-line dating services. So I thought I would give it a try.   I’ve had several “viewed your profile” hits but no one has responded and asked to meet me. I posted a very nice picture and tried to sound upbeat and interesting in my profile but nothing has happened. What am I doing...

Dear Dr. Hedda: I got a problem. It may not be a problem for some women but it is a problem for me. I’ve been dating two men, one for about a year and the other for about 19 months. I like them both alot. Actually I think I love them both. They both know that there is someone else. They have never met and don’t know each others names. I think that this arrangement works for me. I have two men that love me and have fun with. I see then each once or twice a week. I don’t know what they do with the rest of their...

It hit me on the first day of a recent vacation in Riviera Maya, Mexico with my husband (Steve). We found ourselves signing up for an expensive snorkeling excursion as well as a horseback riding trip before we had even hit the beach. Why? We were planning to relax and consider discussing some activity possibilities later on in the trip. What was it that won us over so quickly and definitely? Simple, it was the Tour Representative’s skilled vibe – he had mastered that fine line between “interested and desperate.” Therein lies the...

Posted on Oct 4 2013 - 3:56pm by Dr Hedda Mae
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Dear Dr. Hedda: I didn’t think this would bother me but it really does. About a year ago I met this guy on line. We chatted for about two months and then finally met. He’s terrific and he thinks I am too. So, what’s the problem you ask, well, he’s 2 inches shorter than I am, 4-5 inches if I wear heels. At first, after we first met I thought about him a lot and most of our...

Posted on Sep 27 2013 - 5:30pm by Dr Hedda Mae
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I am recently divorced. It’s not that easy when you’re almost 65 when it happens. It’s a long sad story about betrayal, lying, cheating etc. I know I am well rid of him and it’s not him I am writing about, it’s me. I never thought this would happen. I thought it was a forever marriage and I feel old and alone and it’s scary out there. I look at the men in my age group and they all look so old. Is this it? Will I always be alone? Do I have to settle for some balding man with suspenders. Where...

Dear Dr Hedda: I met Phil about 8 months ago. We seem to hit it off right away. Almost as soon as we started dating sparks were flying. It’s an attraction I never felt before. Everything was going great until… two days ago when a girlfriend of mine called. She said that she had seen Phil late one night doing Meth with a couple of his friends we didn’t know. They were doing it...

Dear Dr. Hedda: This is not your usual letter. I’m not some cute young thing with boyfriend problems. I’m 73 and my “boyfriend” is 76. We dated for two years and have been living together now for 8 months. He is a good companion and I love him and so do my firends. I’ve been married twice before and had very difficult and painful divorces. The problems then were...

Dear Dr Hedda: I’m in my late twenties and work at home. I do well and enjoy my work. But you don’t meet any men in your at-home office. I’m lonely. So I decided to try some dating services. More expensive than I thougth but what choice did I have. I signed up at two different services. Over that past year I have had about 20 dates. All first dates only, no phone calls, no flowers. I’ve been meeting the strangest men I ever met. They come right out and discuss their sexual likes and dislikes.. No smoke and...