Let’s talk about the elephant in the room, OK? When we reach a certain stage of life, particularly with “second time around” love, the balance has shifted. It’s no longer “a given” like the first time around, when couples of very similar age fell in love and got married – like so many college sweethearts that we know.
Now, somehow, men are very often seeking women who are significantly younger, while women are still seeking partners who are similar in age. Not a very well matched situation. Hence, many men and women still out there looking for love and having a challenging time finding it.
Many of my Dating Coaching clients and workshop participants become “stuck” in this quest for a particular age group. Often it feels like a negative statement about one’s self or one’s self-worth if one’s partner is not in the desired age category.
So, I’m here to tell you that you are fabulous no matter how old or young your partner is. That is irrelevant to who you are as a desirable and amazing catch. Go out there in dating land, keep an open mind, and evaluate each potential partner as an individual based upon his or her unique character, personality, and physical traits. If you train yourself to do this, you may be much more successful in finding the love that you seek, and much less likely to be letting the love of your life walk right by you, without ever knowing it.
Heidi Krantz is a Professional Life Coach with specialties in Dating, Moving-On, and Communication. She is the founder of Reinvention Life Coaching, a motivational speaker, and a published author. Heidi practices in Long Island and Manhattan as well as via telephone, skype, or facetime anywhere on earth. She offers workshops and seminars throughout the New York area and via teleconference. www.reinventionlifecoaching.com