I had a conversation with a friend not too long ago who was talking about his ex. Obviously, since she and he ended up in splitsville I know the relationship ultimately didn’t work out. But in thinking back on things about her he did like, this friend made it a point to mention her “really pretty feet.”
Interesting, right? I can see a guy who gets worked up over breasts. Or asses. Or legs. But there’s a healthy portion of them out there who also appreciate women’s feet. Some would immediately label that a foot fetish, but I say not so fast. Check out this definition:
fetish: noun A form of sexual desire in which gratification is linked to an abnormal degree to a particular object, item of clothing, part of the body, etc.
An abnormal degree is the key here. Unless the person has an excessive amount of almost reverence for the object in question, I don’t think immediately jumping to define foot admiration as a “fetish” is warranted. We don’t say a guy has an ass “fetish” just because he gets turned on by good booty, right? Same goes for the feet. But putting that aside, I’m left wondering what the deal is with men’s arousal over a lady’s tootsies. (conversely, the majority of women don’t list a man’s foot as among their top ten sexy male parts). So I asked around.
First of all, one male friend, clarified, it’s not all women’s feet. To no surprise, the ones garnering the most admiration are small, dainty, and with a really nice pedicure. There are those men who lust after big feet, or dirty feet, but tiny tootsies are generally the money shot. OK, got it. But why the attraction at all?
“Feet are an amazing prelude to really great sex,” I was told by a guy friend. “Some women feel a direct connection between the soles of their feet and their breasts. So a good foot massage gets things going.” According to reflexologists, he’s right about that. An area on the middle/upper part of the soles corresponds to the breast and chest. Massaging this area stimulates women’s nipples and even her, ah, lady parts because nerve endings in the feet send yummy signals to those parts of our bodies.
That all sounds pretty good to me. I mean, who would object to a foot massage? (especially, I might add on a personal note, if the guy has really nice hands). But then I turn my attention toward this whole business of toe sucking. What’s the scoop on that front?
Turns out, plenty of guys like doing it, but when asked they’re often at a loss to explain why. With women it seems to be more of a love-it-or-hate-it reaction. Not a whole lot of grey in this area. It’s interesting … I’m happy enough to have my fingers sucked, or to reciprocate for my man, but toes are another thing altogether for me. I just don’t see a toegasm in my future. The thought of having his tongue circling my toes seems ticklish and squishy. Then again, generous lovers give their partners what they want, so I suppose if he insists …
What do you think? Are you happy to have your man’s tongue on your toes, or is foot admiration just a big weird no-no? Do you like descriptions of toe-play in romance novels? Let us know, and be sure to follow us at Lady Smut. We’ll always keep your toes tapping.
This article was originally posted on LadySmut.com and is writing by Elizabeth Shore who blogs every Wednesday at LadySmut.com. Her latest romance HOT BAYOU NIGHTS is available here. Elizabeth has a short story included in the forthcoming LADY SMUT’S BOOK OF DARK DESIRES published by HarperImpulse. @LadySmut1